slichos

So another day when the men go to Slichos and they see the letters of the Aleph bet  flying in front of their eyes , some reading every word and some making short cuts and singing the parts of ATA HOREISO LANU etc  while mumbling and bumbling through the rest of it, the wife at home wishing the husband will stay at Shul for longer since she finally has her privacy and can do whatever she wants like eat sleep or whatever and not having to serve him or take his nervousness !
for some that is what slichos has become  for others its just a ritual that is done for many years as the Gemara would call Mitsvas anashim milumada  Meaning it has become the norm to do so  without any understanding or knowing!
for some not for all the above can be partly or fully true
for others it can be enough of the bull shit and now no slichos or anything and no hard feelings  and at the same time others wish they can live in both worlds at the same time.
we need to get to know ourselves better and use our free choice  and instead of getting angry at those who do things without understanding and so on  just change ourselves to either way without caring what the other does.
After all i do not think god created us to be his police men or women !
neither did he create the women to take the abuse that tends to have become part of certain religious acts as i will write in the post to follow this !