One of the reasons

1 of the reasons one would want to leave the Frum community would be simply because one feels not connected and not fit in (even if they fit in on the outside)
one may feel a bit distant like when they think and dream of specific things they feel hey why am i where i am ?
other times it is possible that they ended up in a very uncomfortable situation or were caught in middle of a specific act or doing  and they feel  like i will be too ashamed by staying so let me get out of here!
All of the above make perfect sense and at the same time not always are wrong !
It is possible that one feels this is wrong for me !
possibly wrong for everyone!
DO WE UNDERSTAND WHY WE ARE FRUM?
that basic knowledge  might be our whole issue!