Not keeping judaism

If one decides that they are not interested in keeping Shabbos and/or Taharas hamishpacha and/or faithfulness to their husbands!
From peoples experiences it seems the best way to go about that would be (in the case that you would like to remain married or have children) to keep it secret
Even if you are a single girl and feel the urge to screw it all as they would say than just learn how to keep it to yourself in most circumstances  (not all) and live that double faced life
I know it sounds awful  , even just the sound of that double facing sounds bad, but its not as bad as it sounds ,
People can enjoy life and do lots of stuff in utmost secrecy .
One of the big problems lay when you trust the wrong person or people  and let them in on this part of your life even if they are the same you need to be sure (which is usually far from what one is) that you can trust them.
especially if it is someone that has nothing to be afraid of or to hide and therefore  would not be able to fully understand the need of your discreteness no matter how much they claim they understand it!
the point is NEVER get caught
its not worth the feeling of it!